Friday, April 29, 2011

Beyond Sex

Many persons have a question whether a girl or boy can be friends? and they get answers according to their school of thoughts sometimes logical and sometimes beyond logic . Our body is made up of two elements: Physical body and Mind. Physically girls and boys are different but mentally they can have psychological similarities (common attitude, personality, traits, habits, interest, ambitions etc.) which are the building block of different relationships like pen pal, internet friendship, Platonic friendship, love etc. Physical friendship often considered as sexual relationship but physical relationship has other dimension too i.e. romantic friendship.

Historically cross-sex friendships have been rare. This is because often men would labor in order to support themselves and their family, while women stayed at home and took care of the housework and children. The lack of contact led to men forming friendships exclusively with their colleagues, and women forming friendships with other stay-at-home mothers. However, as women attended schools more and as their presence in the workplace increased, the segregated friendship dynamic was altered, and cross-sex friendships began to increase. Cross-sex friendship has once been a sign of gender deviance, but now it has been loosened because of the increase of gender equality in schools and the workplace, along with certain interests and pastimes such as sports. However, cross-sex friendships aren't always a socially accepted norm of amity and some of those friendships could develop into romantic feelings.

The relationship between two opposite sexes which usually exclude sexual desires are between siblings, cousins, mother and son, father and daughter and platonic friendship. The relationships in which sexual desire can be, but not compulsorily can be romantic friendship, emotional intimacy, love and fling(fling relationships have very high chances of going to bed but not necessarily).
Examples where there was a non sexual relationship between two opposite sexes.
1. Jesus Christ and Mary Magdalene
2. Mahatma Gandhi and Kasturba Gandhi (after Mahatma Gandhi took Bramcharya)
3. Radha and Lord Krishna.
4. Jawahar lal Nehru and Mrs Mountbatten.

Mahatma Gandhi have many non sexual friendship with females some of them are Kanu Gandhi, Manu Gandhi, Sarladevi, Sushila Nayar, Abha etc. which he told in his biography, but still every called him saint, father of nation, this implies non sexual male female relationship have some social acceptance too.

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